Q16. If you could change one past love, what would you do?

Creating a quiz is about more than just coming up with fun questions and answers—it’s about digging into the emotions, thoughts, and experiences that resonate with the quiz taker. When I designed the quiz titled "Which Chappell Roan Song Describes Your Love Life?" I wanted to do exactly that. The goal was to tap into the complexities of love and relationships and connect those feelings with the music of Chappell Roan.

One of the most thought-provoking questions in the quiz is:

Question 16: If you could change one past love, what would you do?

This question is a deep dive into your past relationships, asking you to reflect on what you might have done differently. It’s about looking back with both regret and understanding, considering the lessons you’ve learned along the way. Each option corresponds to a specific Chappell Roan song, chosen to encapsulate the particular emotion or realization behind your choice. Let’s break down each option and explore the corresponding songs in more detail.

Be bolder in pursuing freedom

This option is for those who, when reflecting on past relationships, realize they may have sacrificed their own freedom or individuality. In many relationships, especially those that start young, there’s a tendency to compromise or hold back parts of yourself to keep the peace or make the other person happy. But what happens when you look back and wish you had been more fearless, more adventurous, and more true to yourself?

Choosing this option indicates that you might feel you didn’t live as fully as you could have, that maybe you let the relationship define you too much, or that you didn’t take the risks you wanted to because you were afraid of the consequences.

The song "Naked in Manhattan" perfectly captures this sentiment. The track is all about embracing your true self and living life without restrictions—without caring what others think. It’s an anthem for anyone who wishes they had pursued their own path more boldly, without letting a relationship hold them back. If this resonates with you, it suggests that your love life might be characterized by a desire for freedom and self-expression, something that was perhaps stifled in the past.

Trust more

Trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, but it’s also something that many of us struggle with. If you chose this option, it likely means that trust was a significant issue in one or more of your past relationships. Perhaps you found it difficult to fully trust your partner, or maybe they didn’t trust you, leading to a strain that ultimately caused the relationship to falter.

Trust issues can stem from many things—past betrayals, insecurities, or just a general fear of vulnerability. But looking back, you might realize that these issues kept you from fully experiencing the relationship or that they caused unnecessary conflicts.

The corresponding song "Casual" reflects the complexity and uncertainty of relationships where trust isn’t fully established. The song deals with the ambiguity and the often-unspoken rules of modern dating, where things are left undefined, leading to confusion and doubt. If you selected this option, it might indicate that your past love life was marked by a lack of clarity and trust, leaving you wishing you had been able to let go of your doubts and just trust more.

Be more accepting

Relationships often challenge us to accept things about our partners that we might find difficult or different from what we expected. If you chose this option, it suggests that looking back, you realize you may have been too critical or too focused on trying to change your partner. This could mean that you had expectations that were too high or that you were less tolerant of your partner’s flaws than you should have been.

Every relationship requires a degree of acceptance—of the other person’s quirks, habits, and even their faults. Love is, after all, about seeing someone’s imperfections and loving them anyway.

The song "Love Me Anyway" is a beautiful reflection of this idea. It’s about unconditional love—the kind that sees and embraces the other person’s flaws without judgment. If you regret not being more accepting in your past relationships, this song speaks to that realization. It’s a reminder that love doesn’t need perfection; it needs understanding and acceptance.

Be more honest with myself

Honesty is crucial in any relationship, but sometimes the hardest person to be honest with is yourself. If you chose this option, it likely means there were moments in your past relationships where you weren’t entirely truthful—either with yourself or with your partner. This could involve hiding your true feelings, staying in a relationship that wasn’t right for you, or avoiding difficult conversations that you knew needed to happen.

Being honest with yourself means recognizing when something isn’t working, even if it’s hard to admit. It means facing uncomfortable truths about your needs, your happiness, and your relationship.

The song "Bitter" captures this sense of regret and self-reflection. It’s about the lingering pain of not being true to yourself and the bitterness that can result from it. If this option resonates with you, it suggests that your love life has been marked by moments where you wish you had been more upfront—whether that meant ending a relationship sooner, being clearer about your needs, or simply acknowledging when something wasn’t right.

Stick more to my dreams

Dreams and ambitions can sometimes take a backseat in a relationship, especially if you’re trying to make things work or if you’re deeply invested in your partner’s happiness. If you chose this option, it suggests that in looking back, you feel you may have compromised too much of yourself—your goals, your passions, your dreams—for the sake of the relationship.

This can be a common experience, especially in relationships where one partner’s dreams are seen as more important, or where you feel that pursuing your own ambitions might cause tension or lead to conflict. But sticking to your dreams is crucial for personal fulfillment, and looking back, you might regret not prioritizing your own goals more.

The song "Pink Pony Club" is all about chasing dreams, even when it’s hard or when others don’t understand. It’s an anthem for anyone who feels the pull between love and ambition, and it encourages you to follow your own path, even if it means making difficult choices. If this option speaks to you, it suggests that your love life has involved moments of sacrifice—where you let go of parts of yourself for the sake of the relationship, and now you wish you had held on a little tighter to your own dreams.

Conclusion

This question, like the others in the quiz, is designed to provoke reflection and introspection. It’s about understanding how your past experiences in love have shaped who you are today and recognizing the patterns or choices that have influenced your relationships. Each option and its corresponding song offer a glimpse into different aspects of love—freedom, trust, acceptance, honesty, and ambition—and how these elements play out in our lives.

By connecting each option to a Chappell Roan song, the quiz not only provides a fun and engaging way to explore your love life but also helps you connect with the music on a deeper level. Whether you see yourself in the bold, free-spirited lyrics of "Naked in Manhattan," the complicated emotions of "Casual," the unconditional love in "Love Me Anyway," the introspective pain of "Bitter," or the dream-chasing determination of "Pink Pony Club," there’s a song that resonates with your experience.

So, as you take the quiz, consider not just the answer you choose but what it says about your past, your present, and how you approach love. The goal isn’t just to match you with a song—it’s to help you gain a little more insight into the soundtrack of your own love life.